Saturday, 26 March 2011

Both in the same boat

I'm sitting here with a hot water bottle 'warming my womb'. It's all part of the TCM approach to conception. I was hoping that the accunpuncture would regulate my cycle and move my ovulation day forward but I am now on day 18 with no sign of it yet.

We got C's SA results on Thursday. It wasn't terrible but it wasn't great. His main issue was the number of healthy sperm which was just 4%. That sounds insanely low but depending what you read, 15% or 5% is considered normal. I am hoping it is the latter.

So, it looks like we are both in the same boat. We each have issues, but at the moment nothing looks like it would outrightly stop us from conceiving. We just have to hope we babydance when we are both having a good day.

Wednesday, 23 March 2011

A time of new beginnings

It finally feels like Spring has sprung, the sun is shining and my garden is full of flowers. This time of year is all about new beginnings so I am hoping that my body can embrace some of that energy.

I had my 2nd accupuncture appointment yesterday and it is making me feel positive about the babydancing. I have no idea if it having any effect but I like and trust my accupuncturist and it is helping me take a more relaxed approach.

C gets the results of his sperm analysis tomorrow so I am hoping that isn't going to bring my relaxation to an abrupt halt. He is generally very laid back but I don't know how he will react if the tests show a problem. I am trying not to think about it until I have to.

Wednesday, 16 March 2011

A big babydancing day

As my accupuncturist stared at my tongue, I hoped she wouldn't see the packet of creme eggs I had munched my way through minutes earlier. Luckily, she tells me chinese medicine is all about balance, so as long as I counteract the creme eggs with my 5 a day I should be on track!

The creme eggs had been my pick me up after being told that it is very likely I have polycystic ovaries. My blood test results showed my progresterone levels were fine, which means I ovulated (yey!) but my hormone levels were topsy turvey. I am booked in for an ultrasound to make a firm diagnosis.  Although it's obviously disappointing, I am not surprised by this as I knew I had the symptoms and was ready to deal with it.

I went straight from the doctors to my accupuncture appointment which was surprisingly pleasant. Lying under a warm lamp I felt a bit like a chick that was ready to hatch - with the addition of quite a few needles!  I had them all the way from my forehead to my ankles to 'clear the damp in my system'.

C is unconvinced that accupuncture can aid fertliity but he is happy to support me if I want to give it a go, and I figure there's no harm in trying.

It was also a big day for C has as he took his 'sample' in that morning for his sperm analysis and we are back at the doctors again next week for the results. I hope more creme eggs won't be needed!

Friday, 11 March 2011

Business and babies

The sun is shining and I'm feeling really positive today. On the non-babydancing front life is going really well and I am a finalist in West Herts Entrepreneur 2011 - go me!! My life is busy, but I'm loving it and I am looking forward to spring arriving.

In babydancing news I have booked my first accupuncture appointment. I have read good things about it and I figure there is no harm in trying it out. C is a little more sceptical but the accupuncturist said it is best to wait for his SA results before he gets any treatment anyway.

I am going to take a more relaxed approach this month and stop the charting. It has been great to learn what is going on with my cycle but I find all the temp taking makes me a bit obsessive. I will carry on with the OPKs though as I want to make sure I don't miss my fertile window.

I am trying to relax and think that I will get pregnant when the time is right. This gives me more time to get my business to where I want it to be before motherhood kicks in so maybe that's why my body is waiting a few more months.

Tuesday, 8 March 2011

Making it happen

The problem with charting is that one errant temperature early in the morning can ruin your whole day. Yesterday my temperature dropped and although AF hasn't shown, it dropped again this morning so I think I can safely say I am out again this month. I drove C to the station, cursing at any driver who got in my way and then broke down in tears as he got out the car.

I think I've realised why I am finding my TTC journey so hard. I can't make it happen. I am generally very proactive and if I want to do something, whether it is career, travel or relationship related, I always make it happen. Well now I can't. And it's so hard.

Saturday, 5 March 2011

Relax!!

As anyone who has been TTC-ing for a while will know, one of the most annoying things people can say is 'just relax and stop thinking about it'! AAaarrrgggh!!! You want to scream 'oh sorry, why hadn't I thought of that?! Someone should tell medical science that conception is all in the mind'.

The latest pearl of advice came from my friend who fell pregnant while on the pill. I am happy for her, and she had her own problems with a traumatic birth, but she has no idea what it is like to 'try' for a baby. I know she is only trying to say helpful things, and so is everyone else who offers their twopence worth, but I wish they wouldn't.

Unless someone knows where my 'off' switch is there is no way I am going to be able to just forget about TTC, even if I wanted to. I am that stage in my cycle where I am hoping any small twinge could be a sign of my BFP and preparing myself for the crash when it's not.

Wednesday, 2 March 2011

Postive thinking

I went for my blood test today and had a little cry in the car on the way. I was singing along to 'chasing cars' and just teared up. I feel like I am chasing this dream of having a baby and it's not getting any closer. I am 8dpo today and apart from on and off cramping, I'm not having any pregnancy symptoms and think I'm probably out this month. I have a tendency to look on the negative side though so here are 5 reasons why I should be positive about my TTC journey:

1) I have a great, supportive husband who wants a baby as much as me and will always lift my spirits
2) My GP listens to my concerns and takes me seriously
3) We are having tests so we will at least know if there is anything we can get help for
4) 8 months is not that long in the grand scheme of things
5) One of my best friends took a year to conceive her first, and now she has two